Take Time to Just Be
How to Make a ‘To Be’ List
This morning I woke up and I felt a bit lost. Ive found myself with a bit of time off from work at the moment and all of a sudden I’m faced with a huge feeling of inertia.
Normally I’m pretty focussed on what I want to do and my problem is that I never have enough time to get everything done that I want to do. I get up, I run around here there and everywhere and I have a To Do list that I never stand a hope in hell of getting to the end of.
The first thing on my To Do list this morning was to do some exercise. Then I was going to sit myself down and do some work on my next novel. There are phone calls that need to be made, rooms that need to be cleaned, washing, ironing, multiple projects to complete, the dog to be walked. But you know what? I just…cant….be…arsed.
Maybe its because without the structure of a working day I’m struggling to feel motivated. Or maybe its because I actually just need to take a rest from the never-ending merry go round and literally take some time to just…be.
I often find myself wondering about what happened to that child-like joy that I used to have, where each day was a blank page to be filled with new and exciting experiences. Waking up and looking forward to the care-free day ahead.. playing with friends when we wanted to, instead of having to crowbar them into our schedules; running and skipping and riding for miles on our bikes purely for the fun of it, instead of just to burn calories; Listening to the charts and taping our favourite songs instead of just having background music while working; Reading a book and entering a whole new world instead of watching the depressing news; Eating ice cream and sweets without counting calories. Let’s admit it, children are great at just being, and the older we get we are conformed into doing instead. After all, idle hands do the devils work don’t they?
As adults we must be busy, busy, busy all the time. Meet the deadlines, work harder, work longer, be seen to be doing..doing…doing. If you’re stressed you’re doing a good job. If you’re tired you’ve done a hard days work. If you just do what you want to do, surely that means you’re selfish right?
You’re tired, you’re stressed, you’re suffering with your health. You’re depressed, you’re anxious. You’re filled with resentment that your one short life is being taken up with task after task after task on that never-ending to do list.
I don’t know about you, but I keep a pad on my bedside table, so that I can jot down things that I have to remember for the morning. I know damn well that when my head hits the pillow without distraction from the TV or social media or any of the other things that stop it functioning properly, my brain will start reminding me of all the things that I didn’t get done, that I need to do the next day, and unless I write them down I will never get to sleep.
Then the next day comes, and lo and behold I have a whole new To Do list sat there ready for me to add on to my old one.
Don’t get me wrong, I know its important to have focus, and as an adult we all have certain responsibilities to uphold, but I do think that amongst all the constant rushing and pressure to conform that we may have lost sight of the meaning of life just a little bit.
We have forgotten that we are here for a short time, and that sometimes we need to just sit back and enjoy the ride instead of just accomplishing tasks. We need to take a deep breath and look up into the expanse of sky above us. Savour the food, listen to birdsong, run our fingers over different textures, smell the cut grass or the autumn leaves, and just watch life around you. Just Be.
So, I’m going to try and take my own advice and instead of going through my tedious To Do list I’m making a To Be list instead. After all, we are human beings not human doings.
be present/ in the moment
be there for someone
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